Have A Safe Space

By: Layne Gudenkauf

{Written while sipping Peppermint Tea with a Frosted Fir Tree candle burning and James TW playing in the background.}

I wanted to revisit falling asleep and relaxing; more relaxing than falling asleep, because usually one leads to the other, ammiright?

When I say that I stress easily, I am not kidding. Literally broke out in a small rash today while rearranging my room and hanging new photos. I didn’t think that the change was the cause, but once everything was said and done in my room, I was no longer itching my arm. But… It made my room comfortable, relaxing and an overall calm space.

Having a comfortable room in your home, whether it is your living room, bedroom or even kitchen, is so important; especially if you deal with stress and anxiety. I have made my bedroom my comfortable space and my safe space. It is filled with big soft pillows, candles galore, old books that are worn and water damages, and little chubby bird knick-knacks scattered about.

I just changed out some of the old photos in my room with images of blurred black and white flowers. For me those pictures are calming and bring a great vibe to my room that is more relaxing than the couture magazine covers I previously had adorning my walls. I still love them, and I kept them, just not in my room.
My whiteboard often changes and has everything from to-do lists, weekly schedules, and blog ideas to inspirational quotes and bible verses. I currently have:

“The Lord bless you and keep you; The Lord make His face shine on you and be gracious to you; The Lord turn His face toward you and give you peace.”
                        ~ Numbers 6:24-26  

This verse was just so important. It was just what I needed. It was the verse that was in my devotional on the exact day I needed it. So many times we forget that God is always there to comfort us! Having that verse in plain sight every morning and night before I go to bed is extremely comforting to me. It is such a good reminder that wherever we are, we can feel relaxed and at peace because God is with us. The verse on the white board makes my room feel calm.

By my bed I have a zum mist, which is one of my favorite things. I started using it after my best friend’s mom started to spray it at the end of yoga class. I associated the smell with a candle lit room where I was completely relaxed and at ease. The smells of the zum mist remind me to breath deep and be mindful of my time and of my thoughts. I am currently using “sea salt” which is very lavender and citrus smelling. I spray it on my pillow at night and it helps me fall asleep.


The last thing that is almost always in my room is a big mug. Usually filled with tea, or with a tea bag glued to the bottom from the night before. I love drinking tea before I go to bed, or any time that I really need to relax because I take the time to sit down and really enjoy the tea. I don’t just slurp it down, but I slowly sip it and savor the warmth and the taste of the tea. It forces me to slow down my life and slow down my thoughts. Peppermint is my favorite nighttime tea and I especially love Celestial Seasonings Candy Cane Lane in the winter!

In a world that is fast paced and full of stresses, find the time to make a room your own and make it an escape to calm you down. While finding the time can seem impossible and there are other things that can seem “more important,” having a space to help you unwind and sleep is so important. Take fifteen minutes at the end of the day for a few days and figure out what you want to do in your space. If you space out the actual actions, it does not seem so overwhelming.

Relax and breathe my friends!


7 thoughts on “Have A Safe Space”

  1. You are right, having a sacred place is vital to peaceful mindfulness. My living room doesn’t have a TV. That is where I meditate sip tea and pray. Thanks for the share! we need to be reminded to take time out for mental health.


  2. Our living room has no TV for this reason–we want it to be a quiet room for careful thought and relaxation. I also have a home office, now that my daughter has moved out on her own–all the changes I’ve made to her room have quiet and focus in mind.


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